How to deal with the terrible twos is a real common question. Raising children in todays world is totally different than how it was back when we were coming up. There are way more distractions for kids and adults.
My experience with my Terrible Twos
I have six children ranging from 30 to 9. Each and every child was different, but the same. The first kid was so mild mannered. All I had to do was give him my exspectations and he followed. However there were times when I had to reinforce what I was asking. I chalked that up as oh he is just a baby and does not understand what I’m saying. That statement is so untrue because we dont give a lot of credit to these babies. They are human and they understand everything thier parents are saying to them.
By the time the other kids came communication I felt was good, because neither one of my children had tantrums when I instructed them that they cannot have something. As a matter of fact, I only had to say it once and thier attention went elsewhere.
I would like to talk that experience up me establishing a love language with my children. Oh believe me at the time I did not know that was what I was doing.
Raising Two Year Olds in todays world
Lets rewind 30 years ago. 30 Years ago this world was totally different. People loved one another as well as being family oriented. Divorce was not as prevalant and most of the time there was one parent in the house hold. Oh and now to mention there were no video games, computers, social media e.tc.. So, saying all that to say that there were not many distractions and outside influences other than when they went to school.
Different times now. Divorce is on the rise. Parents have to work all of the time to make ends meet, so the attention is not focused on the kids anymore.
Toddlers can sense that. I had a exspereince where I had to care for my newborn grandson for the first year of his life. At forty-six and not having babies my knoweledge of how to care for a baby was outdated, because see my baby was seven years old and very independent. Believe it or not it was like riding a bike. The first year was lovely and we developed a love language so I thought.
He was able to go back with his parents at sixteen months. I got him on the weekends or on my days off. Needless to say our love language was interrupted because I had no clue on how to communicate with this demanding two year old. The truth is I was all of sudden too busy and exspected for my older children or youtube to entertain him. Decipline was a mute point, because he was not listening beyond what he wanted to do. help was needed.
What I Found
I was a little concerned because communicating with baby was becoming stressful so therefore I had to find a solution. Most of the reccomendations did not hold my attention. Looking through the internet and asking around brought me to this presentation. Talking to Toddlers: Dealing with the Terrible Twos and beyond.
This presenentation offered some Free parenting tips to help with my toddlers behavior. Coming from a mother of six I was hesistant however, I quickly became impressed. Not mention I put some of those tips to work with my grandson and was very effective in communicating with him. We got our love language back.
- The only real reason your kids are not already well behaved.
- The way most parents talk to their kids, causing them to do exactly what you don’t want
- The crucial emotional bridge you MUST establish with your child before you try to change their behavior.
- The one word you are probably abusing, which triggers those awful temper tantrums